Wellness Matters 16.09.2022
Compromise
I’ve had to compromise my living space over the summer as I subdivided my flat to allow for holiday lettings.
Last year was the first time that I decided to gain some extra income following guidelines from ScotGov about length of stay and maximum tax free income. Preparing for this was quite a task as I had happily spread my stuff over 3 good sized bedrooms, living room, kitchen and extended loft! A massive clear out ensued and I took 7 large bin bags to local charity shops. This year that process was a lot less painful, but still room for improvement. I realised a few things no longer had a home and in fact I was feeling a bit like that myself, with items in odd places and a lot of running up and down stairs looking through boxes.
So when a friend suggested I move my bed up into the loft, I was initially hesitant, although it was bound to be more comfortable than the air bed and sofa configuration which had sufficed this summer. I enlisted the (paid) help of a couple of local handymen and am very pleased with the result. I have a dedicated office space so that I can actually close the door behind me, always good for mind, body and soul, and when I wake in the morning now I can see the trees from the Velux windows in the loft.
Relationships require compromise from all parties, especially when it comes to managing shared time and activities. Negotiating, discussing, planning and agreeing on who will do what when allows for harmony and clarity of purpose. When one person is prone to changing tact, not keeping to their side of the bargain and riding roughshod over previously agreed arrangements, feelings of resentment can spill over into arguments and hurt.
These issues can usually be resolved amicably, so life rebalances.
However when a relationship becomes toxic, it is often to the demise of one party’s mental and emotional health. You shouldn’t have to compromise who you are as a person, or be judged, or have your values and opinions dismissed or ignored. We don’t always have to agree on processes and approaches, but any compromise should be done with respect and empathy.
If you believe that you are losing yourself, or know someone who has lost confidence and self esteem, please seek help:
NHS,
You are worthy. Your are vital. You deserve to have the best that love and life have to offer.
Have a safe week, and try to get outside for a walk, run, cycle, swim, or try a spot of gardening.
With Liz after a swim in Loch Lomond
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